Quarter-life Crisis?!?

@ the age of 25 today, I finally agree with the concept of 'Quarter-life Crisis'

What has this last year brought on the table for me? What have been the highs and lows of this past year?

To begin, lets have a brief review..

I came back from Australia for good.. leaving a well paying and fantastic job, was unwell for most of the year with the same old digestion issues which have been nagging me for 2-plus years now, did not have a job for almost 5 months, quit my first job in 5 months because that is not the sort of organisation I wanted to make my career with, got offered a brilliant opportunity with a big company and then realized that they offered me a ridiculous profile for a good pay and hence am jobless once again, the same year in which my beautiful and most amazing relation came to an end and since, I have had the worst 4 months of my life!

WOW! This can be called a 'crisis' I guess!!

But well, lets review from a different angle,

I came back from Australia to be with family and be around my mom who was not keeping too well, I returned to spend more time with my closest friends who I dearly missed while I was in Australia, I created a brilliant business plan while I didn't have a job and which I will execute in the coming months, I quit my first job because the company was unethical, political and ridiculous to their employees, I missed out on my dream job because of a wrong profile but then am proud that I wasn't greedy for the money and believed in myself getting another shot in my field of interest, I met a beautiful person in this year who has been my pillar of support these last few months and I wish to reciprocate for ever, I did lose a person who I believe was sent to me by God but then maybe I had to lose her to realize that I cannot take what I have for granted always and learnt my lesson, two of my best friends got married, I got my new car, etc, etc!

There is the answer to the questions in my mind. If we have an issue or a situation where we feel everything is going wrong, we have two ways of looking at it. I, for example, have been seeing things from the negative angle and have been down and out for most of the year thinking the same old stupid thought, 'WHY ME?'

A simple truth which is right in front of us.. I went through a lot this last year right, but then scroll up and see which paragraph is bigger and has more points to review.

We all have lows, we all have hit ground zero, we all have cried and been hurt and gone through rough patches. This is where we have to come back and tell everyone around us not to give up on us or count us out. This is where we have to prove to ourselves that we are not those who give up or give in to rough times. We are ones who fight back from them and achieve all that we ever wanted, Joy, happiness, friendships, relationships, wealth, everything!

So lets offer a 'CHEERS' to the year that has passed and lets look forward to a much better, and like a good friend says all the time, 'SUPAAA ROCKING' year ahead!

Until next time..

The Silhouette!

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A moment of your time

Feels like eternity

The vision of your smile

Offers divinity

I could beg to God for you

I could fight the devils

I could challenge the world for you

I'd do anything for you my love.. Because its YOU

You are the rose that never dies

I need you in my life forever

I tell no lies

I'd do anything for you my angel.. Because I need you!

I'd miss you even when you're with me

I'd love you forever and ever

Just want you to hold me

I'd love you more with each passing day.. 

I'd do anything for you.. Because I love you!

A moment of your time

Feels like eternity

The vision of your smile

Offers divinity

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You're the power that holds me together..

You're the dream..

You're my soul..

You're the angel that I will love forever..

I'd do anything for you oh angel.. Because I need you!

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I don't know who you are
Or where you're gonna be
I don't know when we'll meet
Or when we'll ever speak
But I do know something for sure
It's you and only you

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A moment of your time

Feels like eternity

The vision of your smile

Offers divinity

Don't make me wait now come on

Without you, it's difficult for life to go on...

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One Percent!

This weekend has been a very interesting one for me. Probably one of the most since I have returned from Australia!

Yesterday, I had a plan to play cricket with a few friends. While I was waiting for them to pick me up, I began to analyze a certain fact in my life. The fact about whoever this girl would be who I would spend the rest of my life with. Whether it would be the girl I have loved for so long or be someone else, I don't know for sure. And what is funny is that I am not worried anymore. The universe has some awesome plans in store for me.

I began to analyze.. Who is this girl in the silhouette? Who is this girl who I wanna be with forever? Is it Pooja? Or destiny has decided other plans for us!

I recently made this 'list' of things I wanna achieve in the near future. I came up with 25 things that I really wanted in life.. some material and some emotional. I realized one small fact hidden in all that. The girl in the silhouette was just one of the 25 dreams I had. Some food for thought there. The girl, the silhouette that I think about so much.. is just one of the 25 things in the list. A meagre 4 percent!!!

Analyzing further, any girl who I get very close to.. could mean 4 things:

a. An Infatuation
b. A rebound from a past relation OR a past infatuation (applies only in certain cases)
c. A very close friend who we are mistakingly under the assumption, 'could be the one'
d. That she is actually the girl you love!

Hence, the probably of her being the love of your life stands at about 25% or One quarter.

Using the same theory, 25 % of (1 divided by 25) stands at about 1%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Which really means that we guys invest so much time and mind in this girl we wanna be with but we don't realize that her ratio or probability of occurrence stands at about 1 % or less. Please do not mistake this with the level of importance in our lives.

I am a romantic by heart but I sort of understand now, that while I am in the search of or waiting for the return of the perfect one in my life.. It is also important for us to realize that if we do not get that certain person, it is not the end! We look forward to so many things in our lives.. Cars! Phones! Clothes! Tech stuff! Happiness! Family! Health! But then when we face rejection or when that relationship of our dreams does not materialize, we end up loosing our minds! We end up being depressed or upset and lose our focus on the rest of our dreams!

We lose out on the 24 other dreams cuz of that one dream that didn't become reality!

Like I always say, this is totally my opinion and my thoughts put down in ink. But I do feel that it is important for each of us to realize that life is a much bigger picture. It doesn't stop at the breaking of a certain dream. Dream on... there might be something around the corner that will make you forget all the sorrows of the previous broken dreams and in fact bring you so much joy that you'll realize how AWESOME life really is!

I do not say give up on anything. Especially not on the person you love. But do not put everything else on the line.

However, if you're certain that she is the one OR he is the one.. Kindly disregard this BLOG! ;)
But again, BE SURE!

Today @ 25, I have learnt, "Have faith in yourself and believe that you can get whatever you want. Nothing feels impossible then."

Until next time..

Words of love..

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Every day is a beautiful day

When I think about you

Every night is a peaceful night

When I dream about you

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Tumhari duniya mein khushiyan bhar denge

Tum aazmakar to dekho

Tumhari muskurahat ke liye kya nahi karenge

Buss aazmakar to dekho

Pyaar kiya hai tumse

Nibhate rahenge

Tum milo na milo

Tumhari khushiyon ki duaein rab se karte rahenge

Hum toh aapke deewane hain

Kyun aap humare ishq se anjaane hain

Aapki zindagi ko phoolon se rang denge

Humaari deewangee ko aazmakar to dekho

Nazrein jab milti hain tumse

Humein lagta hai

Waqt ko koi rokay abhi

Aisa naseebon wala kya koi aur ho sakta hai?

Tumhare liye kuch bhi karenge hum

Maangkar dekho toh zara

Apni parvaah bhi na karenge hum

Aaj is ishq ko aazmakar dekho to zara!

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Every day is a beautiful day

When I think about you

Every night is a peaceful night

When I dream about you

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Breathe..

What do we want from our lives. Obviously we have certain needs, wants and demands! But then have we categorized them as what is important to us right away and what can wait, or is it just a time based thing. Oh! the Blackberry 9700 is the new phone in town, hmm 27k so what, my insurance payment (or whatever it is) can wait just a little longer.

I am the same, I like to get what I want in the immediate. For the same reason, even Dad calls me a 'broken record', a record which is stuck on the same thing until fixed. And the fixing here means getting what I want. Happened with my Macbook, my new car as well as my iPad. Happens all the time. But is it really right. If I think practically, of course not. But then, my heart says, 'you have what you wanted dude, Awesome!'

Back to square one right.. who do I listen to? my mind or my heart!

Hence, when you have a choice which involves big bucks or important people and important relations at stake. Don't just take the leap.. 'breathe' and take a couple of minutes just to think what will be gained and what will be lost. I need to read this again and while you'll (if anyone at all :P) might be reading this, so will I!

I am not the biggest fan of sitting in the dark and taking a few minutes off to meditate and reflect. But I do it my way.. I sit in the dark with my eyes open and think of things that are going to happen tomorrow or next week or even next month. I think and feel that they are already happening. That really helps me analyse my expenses and my decisions amongst other more important things.

On a different note.. this really helps to sit and think about things that we want, to occur in our life. Give your dreams just 5 minutes. Hear yourself breathe. Hear your heart beat. Analyse what you need and think of it really happening. It really helps you feel that moment and then, in reality, work toward it.

Today @25, I have finally learnt to give some time to 'me' and understand what moments in the coming days, weeks and months of my life will truly bring me joy and make me feel complete.

You are your own best friend. You know yourself, your thoughts and your dreams clearer than any body else. Why not consult your self when need be.

Until next time..

The right time...

I have a very small exercise today, for all of you. Please focus and imagine all of this happening in real. If there is a romantic somewhere in us, we will be able to relate to this. And this could even be you..


Think of  a leaf. A beautiful green leaf.
It is falling from a very high tree. A large and decade's old tree.
It falls on the grass. Grass, that is as well-trimmed as a newly spread carpet.
The grass is filled with the early morning dew. Dew, that shines like pearls out of the ocean.


On top of the beautifully shaped hill, the grass sways to the tunes of the wind.
A young, blue butterfly flutters its wings in search for a place to rest.
There is a house by the valley. A beautiful house. Just looking over infinite nature.
On the window stands a couple. He holds her in his arms and they stare straight at the early morning sun.


Their life looks perfect. In love, arms around each other, the rising sun over a beautiful valley with blue butterflies fluttering their wings.


He says to her, "If God were to ever come down on earth, he would want to be where I am today."


She says to him, "If God were to ever come down on earth, I'd request him to pause this moment forever."


He gets the ring out of his pocket, she is not expecting it. He says to her, "I cannot be God, but I would want to be the one to give you whatever you wish for and keep you happy for the rest of your living days, AND BEYOND!"


He bends down on both knees, produces the ring and tells her, "Be my valentine for ever. Be the rising sun in my life. Marry me!" And then he bends his head further, eyes closed, and says, "Be the blessing that God sent for me!"


She is numb and speechless. She loves him too of course, and wants to say something back. She holds back that tear of love and says ,"Y y yes"


I can't be sure about what she says after that because it hasn't happened yet. But, yes, this is the way I wish to tell you that I want to marry you.


I am certain you'll say a yes but I am not sure whether you'll slap me and call me overly dramatic or hug me in realization of how much you love me. You're a figment of my imagination, something that is going to turn real very very soon.


Today @ 25, I can picture your silhouette and this is the extent I love you. Wait till we meet.. You're gonna only wish that in the after life, heaven can try and match the life here.


We all have hearts filled with love and expressions. Seek that person inside you and bring him/her out.
Life is about these moments. You add them all and feel contempt and satisfied to have witnessed and been a part of them.


She may or may not read this. But believe me, whatever the case, That is the way I am gonna express my wish to   make her mine for eternity.


Until next time..

Let's accept..

This is an interesting one. Like I said, I have a vivid imagination. I think and imagine characters that don't even exist. I give them names and personalities. This once, however, I was analyzing a certain phase in my life's future where I would have a certain person married to me, I own a beautiful house where we all live together. 3 cars standing with me (boiled down to details like car, model, colour and d car number!)

This weird thing happened to me. For some reason my imagination went for a swing and I started thinking about random things like me being the national coach of our cricket team and being so down to earth ;), that I walked  the streets to the stadium every time before the match started and for some stupid reason even bought a ticket to the game! :D :D :D

The reason I shared this with you'll is to understand that when we feel that we have a lot of control over a certain set of things in life, we have to understand that nothing is certain. Detours and potholes are inevitable. Same like driving a brand new car on the streets of Mumbai. However hard you try, there is this one pothole that always finds you.

But then that is the learning curve. A smooth and perfect  path never teaches us enough. We learn from mistakes and blunders and situations that don't really go our way. And we better ourselves. We learn from a burnt dish, we learn from being penalized for talking on the phone and driving, we learn from fights and most of all we learn from rejection. Life's path is altered every time we accept our mistake and decide to make amends. The new path is always better than the previous one because we were ready to accept and adapt.

Hence, when we expect a bed of roses and end up sleeping on the floor just because of a certain circumstance, let's not sulk about 'why it always happens to us'. But if we would have expected a long sleepless night and had gotten some space on the floor to sleep for a few hours, we would have cherished it and felt infinite joy!

Cherish all the moments in our life. Make beautiful memories out of every moment.

When I say this to all of you, I make it a point to try and learn something from what I say as well. Because it's always easier to preach and tougher to implement and accept.

Soon, I am gonna try a new funda. I am gonna keep away from all things and people I love. I am not gonna meet them or talk to them. Maybe write to them now and then or communicate over a blog. Before I write about it, I want to understand completely the meaning of detached attachment. 

To ccept the reality that nothing is forever. Only then can I learn that while we have it, we need to understand the worth of it.

Today @ 25, I finally have an idea about the meaning of, 'practice before you preach' and I am gonna try it.

Until next time..

Lie to me!

All of us are victims of our own dreams and imaginations. We make believe certain parallel realities and convince ourselves to believe they exist. Sometimes real and sometimes fictional people are part of them.

Our minds are unbelievably powerful. So much so that if we convince ourselves that a certain part of our dream could move a step closer to the edge of reality.. It does so simultaneous to our thoughts. All my blogs talk about love, faith, happiness and belief. Because the more I train my mind to think about these positive feelings, I will begin to emit them. And I I'll eventually attract the same to me. Maybe I am inspired to a certain point by people and thoughts on paper, but what I loved most is beginning to believe that I am not rigid. I have the will to change and to be better. Trust me, we all have the same will. We just need to find that and then what is a dream job or who is this girl of your dreams. You will have it all.

But then like a coin, there are two sides to our minds. Our minds are children, our children. We nurture, train and develop our minds to be what we want them to be. But they still have a way of their own, a little beyond our control. And contrary to what people's opinion on this would be, they need a little lies every now and then.

We need to make our minds believe that to certain unhappy and upset situations, there is a solution. That there is an 'alternate reality' to everything. It may not always be the case but Then we live on hope, don't we?

We all need a healer in our lives. Why not be our own healer. If it's a little lying to ourselves that helps calm our mind, what the hell!

You know there was a reason why I started writing here. I wanted to be able to make my mind believe that I can talk to people and tell them how I feel even when I am lonely. So now I know one thing is for certain, whether at home, at work or on a vacation. I am not alone.

I lied to myself every single day after my break up a couple of months ago, that I was happy! I lied to myself so much that I used to sit on my terrace with a tear rolling down my eye and I used to scream, 'i am happy!'.
In my defense, it was a very very long relation. And I had built an alternate reality to It too! An alternate reality which involved family, vacations, gifts and celebrations, and everything else you look at when you think of a future with your partner.

More on relationships later!

But today @ 25, I feel that I am finally friends with my mind.

Love, wealth and joy!,

Whacky night! Lot's of sheesha, crazy amounts of booze, awesome food and one of my closest friends birthday! REWIND!!!

3am: We exit the party and head down to the parked cars. Something gets into the not-so-sane me and I say, Let me walk back home! haha (So typical of me though!)

But, ya, somehow I did reach home! Took me about 30 minutes to walk two streets!!!

Now, I was walking and bang came the thought! What is it that makes me happy? What is it that makes me feel fulfilled in life? What is it that I actually need to be able to say the two magical words everyday, "I'm Happy!"

My answer was quick and something that I really do understand so clearly even though I was madly drunk. And I was so happy, almost like I struck gold with the most obvious answer I could have found. I kept repeating it to myself because I had this weird feeling that I would forget it being as high on life as I was at the moment. Love, Wealth and Joy! Love, Wealth and Joy! Love, Wealth and Joy!

I almost posted a lot of rubbish last night but thankfully fell asleep mid-way ;)

So what do I make out of these three words? Love, Wealth and Joy!

Love: Not that I need to explain it. We all have our own understanding of it and none of us can be wrong. Because love is different to different people. We all are hungry for it. I, for one, am starving for Love, always!

It's a word most overused.
It's something that runs in our every vein and nerve
It's something that completes us, we need it and it needs us
It's a funny little thing called love!

Wealth: No, I do not mean being a millionaire and getting whatever you command for. I mean having enough to be able to get what we want and give what we wish, to the ones we love.

A materialistic world it has become.
The more you have the less it is.
We need it for fitness and even for health
We need for ALMOST everything we need
It's such a part of life, we call it wealth!

Joy: Spread it! It works like an echo. We spread it and it keeps coming back to us. I personally feel that this is the most difficult of the three. But then happiness attracts happiness right? We are always in PURSUIT of it.


We have a gift. All of us.
The gift to make someone happy.
To wipe somebody's tears. To not let them cry.
It makes us happy too. It makes us feel complete.
So let's spread the gift. Let's spread the joy!


Today @ 25, I have found the answer to what I need in life, the answer to what can make me happy. It was an obvious answer. Not anything enlightening. But so many times we have something but don't really understand the importance and meaning of it.


Until next time...

The longest night!

Full moon and the dew on the grass.

Silent streets and the midnight hours.

Some electronic music and the hand on the wheel.

My life is complicated but it's no big deal!

Driving at a 100 miles an hour I look at the rearview mirror,

The view of the bridge could never be more clear.

I analyze my life..

I am 25 today.. A long way I have come.

Thinking about those memories still makes me numb!

The lane ahead is narrow,

There is room for only one of us, either me or sorrow!

Shining cars are parked on the curb.

Joy is entering my life as a healing herb.

I am slowing down as my destination nears.

I think of my life again;

I think of all those who are always by me,

Lending their support so I can hold back those tears.

I choose my spot to park,

A corner which is fairly dark.

A quiet night where all I hear,

Is a distant dog's bark!

I switch off the ignition and turn off the lights.

It gets darker and the blacks take over the whites!

I exit the car and shut the door behind me..

I think, "if I go missing today will anyone come to find me?"

And the answer comes to me right away;

In many a heart I still stay.

Of course they will come to find me..

And to remind me..

That no matter how dark the alley or how quiet the night,

"We always have you in sight"!!!

I enter through the gates where the security guard waits,

He offers a smile and I return the gesture.

"He would also have problems", I think..

But on his face he stills paints this happy caricature!

I have finally reached home and it's time to sleep.

My mind is still active and the thoughts are running deep.

My eyes won't shut and I don't know what to do,

I feel like saying so much but then I talk to who?

I see the days newspaper on the center table.

I flip through some pages but to understand, I am unable!

I am fed up of these games my mind plays with me,

And decide that darkness will no longer rule me.

I think of a beautiful memory.

It involves her, a ring and us by the sea!

Brings that smile back on my face.

Oh! Those really were the days..

I am smiling again and so it comes to attention..

My thoughts and feelings are all my creation!

And, I have finally found the solution,

To give the darkness a rightly deserved vacation.

I switch on the lights.

Oh! It feels so much better already..

I am gonna move on now..

For once I am certain that 'I am ready'!

I am ready to care again.

To make someone feel special.

I am ready to bring joy to her life.

And to tear these distances apart,

With a sharp-edged knife!

I feel happy again and I might even get some sleep!

No room on my bed for sorrow or hate

Because the bed is taken by the two of us.

It's taken by me and 'Faith!'

A piece of me..

This is quick! I am already getting addicted to writing everyday. Last night when I got home, I almost turned on my laptop to write and speak out the million things that were running in my head. But then my eyes won the fight against my mind and hence I went to sleep. ;)

I love writing and so I got my pen and book out and quickly wrote this,

"""""

Whatever the distance between us..

I know you're always with me!

I know I can love you forever,

It's this love that I want you to see!!!

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Aaj tere liye hi dhadakta hoon main

Iss dil ki tanhai se darta hoon main

Tu jaane na kitna tujhse ishq karta hoon main

Tu agar na mile

Toot jaaoonga main

Iss haqeeqat se itna kyun darta hoon main 

Ab toh maangoonga Rab se buss ik yeh dua

Tere kadmon mein rakh de woh buss yeh jahaan

Na teri khushiyan kab bhi ho tujhse juda

Naa kahe Rab mujhse agar,

Kasm khaoonga hoon main

Teri khaatir  Rab se bhi rooth jaaoonga main

"""""

It's not even been a week since I've started writing, but, I almost feel I can't live without sharing my mind on this blog each day. Maybe twice a day on occasions too!!!

In the 25 years of my life, not even the closest people have known everything about me. I have always been this closed book. Certain people who become a part of my life are exposed to certain pages but I can easily say that there has been just one person till date who knew me more than I knew myself. But that's about to change. Over the next few weeks, anybody who constantly follows me on this blog will know every single bit of  who I am.

Today @ 25: I am at this crossroads in life. A crossroads where I (funnily enough) know exactly what I want. And I will get it. Because I believe in myself.

Keep reading.. :)

Faith!

I am finally getting a tattoo!!!!! YAYY :)

I have three choices as to where I am gonna get it... Right forearm, Right bicep or Behind the neck! Once that is finalized.. Bring on the ink!

Time to have some 'Faith!'


Faith! Funny word eh! We have used it a million times in conversations with hundreds of people. 'Have faith in me' OR 'Don't lose faith'
But do we really know the meaning of this 5-letter 'overused' word. Honestly, I didn't really ever use it in it's true meaning until yesterday. Today, I am ready to accept that word because I know one thing for sure, faith is something that will always be a part of my soul, a part of my mind, 'a part of me'!!

Faith is believing in something with all your heart and mind. Faith is being positive about it and knowing that if it's a person you wish to be with, you WILL be with OR if it's a job you deserve, you WILL get it.

It's so important to look at life positively. We live every moment just once, we cannot go back to November 14th, 2007 and live it again, how much ever we wish to. Such is life but then isn't it brilliant too. We lived the moment, cherished it and it's now memory, something that can't be taken away from us no matter what, simply amazing!. And with the bad experiences, why not move on, learn something out of it and better ourselves. With so much time on hand we can be the best at anything we wish to, right? ;)

And then think about it from a different perspective, why live in the past? There is so much happening in our present and there is so much the future has to offer. Why live in the moments that have passed however memorable or embarrassing or upsetting or joyous they were. Let's look ahead, leaving the regrets and disappointments behind us and working on making everyday just as good as our best day.

Wow! I sound like such a gyaani but believe me, I am not perfect at it, definitely not. But now I understand that, who likes people who regret all the time?. Why am I this way, why does it always happen to me or similar crazy stuff. Let's be the person who says, I love life, let's go get what we want, let's achieve heights that we have seen others achieve (and higher)..

Today @25, I have finally found the right way to live, the right way to succeed and the rightest way to have 'faith' in what I know is right!!

I don't wanna run away any longer, in fact, now I wanna accept life.

There is always something better around the corner, don't be afraid, go look for it. It might turn out to be exactly what you want, exactly what you need!!!

Until next time..

How does it happen?

There are certain events in our life that change everything. One such thing happened with me last night. I still can't fathom how it has taken so much of an effect on me that, over night, my outlook towards so many things has just changed. Towards my work, towards my friends, towards my aims and goals in life and last but not the least 'relationships'!

After my busy day at work, I got home and quickly ran down to play my usual round of table tennis. Came back home, ran for a shower and then sat in my room thinking what to do next. And that's when I decided to reflect on the last few weeks of my life and what I did wrong or right. I then came to think, why should I weigh everything that happens on a scale which balances on my assumptions of wrong or right. That wouldn't be fair to anyone else involved.

I have this knack of worrying about what should not happen in my life rather than shifting my focus on what should! Why not say to ourselves, 'I know I want to be with him/her, and I WILL!'
There is no reason why it shouldn't happen if we have faith in our own selves.

And so I made myself a plan. A plan, where I will have no regrets about anything I do. A plan where I will just see the positive side of everything (surely not ignoring the negative). But I will start looking at everything with a new perspective. Why sit at home and wonder why everything we do goes wrong and why not sit and wonder how I have achieved the certain things that I always wanted to and HOW!

I am a dreamer and a big one at that. And in my justification, I love it! That is the one place where everything is perfect. Where everything happens the way I want it to and I am with who I want to be with. I have dreamt to the extent of my conversations with the one I will spend the rest of my life with. How I will do whatever it takes for her to be the happiest person in my life.

But then today, rejuvenated, I have faith in myself to be able to put my dreams to reality. To be able to live a perfect life with the perfect one in a perfect home. It's always possible!

I am nobody to influence people's lives or alter their perceptions or views on certain people or subjects. In fact there is so much I still need to learn and understand about life itself. My purpose behind writing is to be able to open my mind on a blank canvas and carve out a design that inspires people.

So here's to a new beginning.. Let's go get it.. :)

Understanding me!

It's funny how we keep cribbing and sulking about how it is so difficult to understand a certain person in our lives! I do that all the time. Whether it be my Dad or my ex-girlfriend or my closest of friends, why is it that these people who are generally so close to us, are sometimes so difficult to understand!

Let's see, could it be that because these people are so close to us, we have presumptions about their actions and their modes of behavior! And when our presumptions do not match the actual outcome, we tend to feel that the person did not act in the certain 'expected' way. Let's understand, however close we are, we are two different people with 2 different sets of minds and hence our actions and decisions ought to be different.

But every now and then we think,

Why did he not return my call? or Why is she going out with that guy after my telling her that he is not right for her? etc. etc.

I have a very close friend today, who I can even give my life for! She is so dear to me that it scares me sometimes. I believe many of us have come to a point in our lives that we sit back and wonder how a particular person ever got so close to us and us to him. This is the exact story. When a person is this close to you, you tend to expect a lot from him/her. Expect calls, expect text's, expect to meet and also expect that person to share everything with you. But is that really always possible? In a perfect world, MAYBE, but in a practical world, let's accept that it's NOT POSSIBLE!

Today @ 25, I sometimes feel that I have lived it all, but have I really? Hmmmmm

I have yet to learn and witness a lot. I am a person who always needs answers and hence you'll always notice that there will be a lot of questions everytime I put up something on this blog. And I will be around until the day I have all my answers! Life is short i agree but long enough for us to be content with it, long enough for us to have cherished the moments that we leave behind us and definitely long enough for us to spread our love in lives of others who matter.

So let's give the people who we're expecting so much from some space to breath and analyze what can be done correctly in order for our closest relations to work out. We humans are nothing without each other.

Until next time..

Let's open our minds! Understanding LOVE : Part One

Understanding LOVE : Part One

I sit here today in my office and wonder what made me start this blog!

I write a lot but have never written to people who might come out here and read my opinions on life or what my perceptions about certain things are. I have so much to say and so much to hear from all of you. Maybe this is the beginning that we were looking for.

We all have opinions and blogging has been this one route that people take in order to get it across to the rest.

Let's begin today with the most basic topic that all of us can relate to. Whether we're thin or we're fat, whether fair or dark, whether we're rich or poor, whether Hindu or Muslim, we can all relate to LOVE!

There must be a million people who write about it, who have opinions that we all feel are divine and mind-awakening! But do we ever really follow them. Do we ever really feel that life is perfect and that if I follow certain pieces of advice, flowers will blossom and i'll live happily ever after?

What is LOVE? Many say it's truly meeting the one soul mate and knowing it straight away. How do we know it? Does our heart tell us this? Or is it our mind that eventually believes that this is the one person who could make everything right?
We all fall in love, but do we all really FALL in love just the once and the story is perfect never to be written off the books. Wish all our stories were perfect like the movies. We meet a person, fall in 'love at first sight' and then after the small complications that we have, live happily ever after.

But then nothing is perfect, is it??

I have a few stories of my own dividing my life into chapters that have been more interesting than romantic! (Very romantic none the less). But I cherish each day (even after constantly sulking that I hate this world) because I learn from this funny little thing called love. We need than one person who we care for and who cares back, who we go out of the way to do things and who reciprocates!

Today, @ 25 years and after three relations (two and a half actually, we'll come to that) I know I am not some guru at this, believe me no one is, but I know one thing for sure.. "Women are complicated, but not impossible to understand!!!" ... It just takes time :P